It is one of the tragic ironies of the psychoanalytic age that we are attracted to people, particularly our partners, who often turn out to be the very ones that begin to repel us later in life.At first, its those once endearing and now annoying habits. And then, it becomes annoyance at their larger world view.
Perhaps it's because in partnering, we seek to make up for those things that we are lacking. Perhaps its because we buy into to the old adage that opposites attract. Even though, contemporary research shows us that that is simply not true, that partners that are similar tend to do better.
Today we seek and talk of authenticity, but is it possible to be authentic, while trying to compromise with anyone that is the opposite from who we are at core?
Those are some of the central ideas running through Alexandra Fuller's memoir, Leaving Before the Rains Come
.My conversation with Alexandra Fuller:
